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Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Initial Gra Gra


I initially wanted to title this post "Initial Feelings", but I feel it may not do justice to what i really mean and want to write about in this post, but "Initial Gra Gra"  is more suiting. It seems to possess the drive and passion that comes with initial feelings that we experience when we meet people we really really are attracted to. If we fail to guard our hearts with all diligence, there is a probability that we will fall or experience this whether we are christians or not, married or not and irrespective of whether we are male or female.

What is Initial Gra Gra?

Initial gra gra occurs when we get carried away by the chemistry or attraction we experience with someone of the opposite sex. If you are married, check and curb it instantly. If you are unmarried, I urge you nonetheless to do the same. It usually starts subtly but usually gathers pace and momentum very quickly. It has the potential to blind us to reason, caution, self control, and most especially the voice of God. The chemistry and instant connection we have with certain people can almost spontaneously delude us into thinking that the "clicking" is God ordained.

A known fact about it is:

Initial Gra Gra has a downside, it is always short on fuel, short on the long distances, short on energy to last long. It is usually short lived. Like Butterflies, it perches for a while and then flies away. After a short while it wears off the eyes of those caught in it. Soon the shortcomings, blemishes, cracks, errors, and unpleasant sides of the couple begin to become obvious. As Gra Gra feelings begin to fade so does unpleasant feelings become pronounced. Feelings of boredom, irritation, anger, disdain, hate, and so on soon take over. This is what happens when we go into relationships based on feelings like this. We need to subject whatever we feel to the scrutiny of the Holy Spirit, scriptures and time. Don't act on it until you are sure it is right. Bible says, do not awaken love until it is READY.

In between it's chemistry and it's downside:

My major concern is what happens between when we meet someone and initial Gra Gra kicks in and when it wears off. What must have happened during that space of time?

1. The Two individuals must have acted on it

2. Consolidated it by constant communication

3. Must have entered some sort of relationship

4. The supposed chemistry must have led to certain sensual and emotional compromises. Compromises such as sex and related issues that ultimately ends when initial Gra Gra wears out. Some would go into irreversible errors, like tattooing names of their crush on their bodies, take nude pictures together in the heat of the moment, some break vital destiny, covenant and eternally valuable relationships for the sudden one and many more. I had a friend who years ago almost ended a four year relationship because she met someone who charmed her with his charisma in a few hours. After some counseling she got a "hard reset". Today she's married to the man she was in relationship with for four years and blessed with kids. 

5. Some financial commitments must have been made that will be considered a waste of valuable resources if it does not result in meaningful relationship.

There are more things that occur within this window of time of flowing in Initial Gra Gra, which also can be likened to "acting on a CRUSH". But I will like to leave you to figure it out.
What has come out of the crushes you have gone into without hesitation? What have you learnt from them? What have they resulted into? Pease ask yourself!
Shalom.

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